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This piece is based upon a Latino girl, age 19
Her main quote: We all have insecurities.
Some of her other quotes:
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Just be comfortable with yourself because when you do get to the real world,
none of that stuff really matters. In high school, it's just, you
know, who's the most popular or who's prettiest, or who is the smartest—people
judge you about that. In the real world, it doesn't matter.
• You know, it is difficult when you open up a magazine and you see, like,
a really skinny, tall, beautiful woman, you know and that's how society
is kinda saying we should look like.
• I am not at my ideal weight. I think I would be more comfortable
if I was, like, l35, you know, instead of what I am. It's just something
I want to work at to be a little bit better because society tells me I should
be that way. Everybody gets down about weight because it's an insecurity.
• When I didn't have a boyfriend, I didn’t really mind it, but then you
know there was that thing where I wished I had somebody to tell me that
he appreciated me and help me a little bit with my self-esteem, but then
sometimes they don't even do that anyway because they're clueless.
• I think now more girls are kinda wanting to experience sex—wanting to
see what it's about. I don't think that girls should have to
have sex with their boyfriend, though. I mean, if he really cares
about you, it shouldn't matter if you have sex with him or not because it
is something that is personal, it's intimate. Most guys just take
sex and leave or it's just another story to tell their buddies or they think
they need to have it all the time and sometimes the girls think, "well I
have to give it to him just to keep him."
• With guys who have a lot of sex, it's like, "Hey buddy, good for you...way
to go, wish I was him!" And then with girls, it's like ,"She's a slut,
she's a whore." I think the double standard is really dumb.
Most girls don't talk about how many partners they've had because they don't
want to be thought of as a slut because of their experiences. It's
not that they're embarrassed, they just don't want to be judged for it.
• I think “sexy” is confidence—that you're okay with yourself and your body,
how you present yourself, what you wear, you know, you don' t go too short
with the skirts, but you have to be able to pull something off. There
is a difference between trashy and sexy, I think. And mostly I think
you need to be okay with yourself on the inside and the outside. I
think our society places such an emphasis upon outward appearance.
• I don’t think I'm beautiful because when I was younger people never really
accepted me so when people say that I am beautiful, 'cause I hear it a lot,
but I just don't feel that I am. You know I talk about being confident
and all this stuff but it is something that I am having problems dealing
with.
• Some people don't think I can speak English, when it's the other way around:
I can't speak Spanish! It's just a stereotype and people think that
I’m slow because I’m Hispanic. Those things really bother me.